Some years ago, a
prominent Christian wrote a book entitled The
God of the Second Chance. I read that book
when I was a young married man. I did my best to see
if what this man had written was true: that if your
first marriage does not work out, God will rescue
you and bless you with another spouse "by His will,"
in other words , give you a second chance. The book
was an attempt by the author to explain and justify
what had taken place in the breakup of his covenant
marriage and to further explain how the Lord had
finally "blessed" him with a second wife.
But I could not agree, and this horrible sinking
feeling came over me, a foreboding sense of
heartbreaking astonishment that millions would now
use that teaching to justify their present and
future actions, becoming "covenant breakers" not
only with God's so-called permission but also with
His "apparent" blessing and approval. And that is
exactly what has happened since then.
At that time, the Lord led me to study God's true
word concerning the "holiness of the Lord which he"
loves (Malachi 2:11) and the prophetic nature of the
covenant of marriage (read Paul's teaching the
Ephesians 5). In Malachi, we are taught that God
hates "putting away," but we have made "putting
away" and remarriage so acceptable and to be held in
such high esteem that the preserving of the
so-called second marriage has become more important
the preserving the real marriage covenant! And now
they say that to divorce one's spouse and marry
another is a witness to God's grace!