Some years ago, a prominent
Christian wrote a book entitled The God of the Second
Chance. I read that book when I was a young married
man. I did my best to see if what this man had written was
true: that if your first marriage does not work out, God
will rescue you and bless you with another spouse "by His
will," in other words , give you a second chance. The book
was an attempt by the author to explain and justify what had
taken place in the breakup of his covenant marriage and to
further explain how the Lord had finally "blessed" him with
a second wife.
But I could not agree, and this horrible sinking feeling
came over me, a foreboding sense of heartbreaking
astonishment that millions would now use that teaching to
justify their present and future actions, becoming "covenant
breakers" not only with God's so-called permission but also
with His "apparent" blessing and approval. And that is
exactly what has happened since then.
At that time, the Lord led me to study God's true word
concerning the "holiness of the Lord which he" loves
(Malachi 2:11) and the prophetic nature of the covenant of
marriage (read Paul's teaching the Ephesians 5). In Malachi,
we are taught that God hates "putting away," but we have
made "putting away" and remarriage so acceptable and to be
held in such high esteem that the preserving of the
so-called second marriage has become more important the
preserving the real marriage covenant! And now they say that
to divorce one's spouse and marry another is a witness to
God's grace!